Hi friends, family, acquaintances and everyone in-between.
I know in the past I have touched greatly on anxiety, how I cope with it and what I do to essentially make myself feel better and more comfortable. Recently, and I’m sure it’s similar with many of you, I have struggled with being anxious more often than not. As someone that chooses to put their life online, I think it is important to share every aspect of myself with you guys and use this platform to be completely upfront and honest.
Some of you may not know, but May was Mental Health Awareness month. And even though working on our mental health should be a daily thing, I think that is can easily be looked passed. When something is given a day or month it is easier to hone in and focus on what needs to be worked on and what we can do to succeed in those aspects of our life. Understandably with quarantine it’s been harder to pinpoint what is causing my anxiety because so much has changed in such a short amount of time.
I started working out, being more active, reading, investing in myself more than I have before but I was still feeling unfulfilled and anxious. I couldn’t tell if it was a lack of seeing my family, a lack of alone time or what was going on but I was consistently anxious.
So, the point of this post is to check in with everyone and make sure everyone else is doing alright. It is a tough time for everyone and I don’t want anyone to think that they were being overlooked or that their issues do not matter; because they definitely do.
At the beginning of quarantine there was a post going around saying, “check in with your friends, check in with people you love otherwise you don’t care about those people.” But I think it’s important to realize that just because someone hasn’t checked-in with you doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. They may be going through something way deeper than you could ever imagine.
I think that when you’re ready you should check in with whoever you feel like you need to check in with and if someone didn’t reach out to you during a tough time it isn’t because they don’t care about you. It may be because they do have their own things that they aren’t ready to confide in people with. Do not, make their issues about yourself and understand when they tell you that when they’re ready to talk about it, they will.
I’m here to tell you you are worth it, you are more than enough and you are extremely valued. Not only is this a peptalk for myself and words that I should be saying every single day but you should say them to yourself and others often. You need to recognize that you are the main character in your story and if you don’t act like it already then you need to start acting like it now. You are in control of your own life. You are in control of your daily habits. You are in control of how you feel. So I want you to wake up every single day and feel loved and happy, because you deserve it.
Even though the beginning of this post is semi-heavy; here are a few tips that I have been doing that have been helping me cope. I’ve been taking long baths, listening to the EmpowerHER podcast, reading a good thriller novel, doing personal development, taking time off social media, and not feeling guilty if I eat a cookie (aka – eat healthy but treat yoself). These things may sound silly to you but I encourage you to make a list of things that help you relax, check in with them daily and commit 30 minutes of your time a day to it (I understand that life is busy but we have just as many hours a day as Beyoncé). If that is calling your family or FaceTiming your friends, do that. If it’s taking alone time, even though it may hurt others, do that. Remember you come first. And even though people may not completely comprehend, if it weighs heavy with you then that’s all that matters. So, with that being said. I hope y’all have a wonderful day and I can’t wait to check back in with you guys soon.