Rebuilding Bridges

Happy Tuesday, everyone!

Today I wanted to touch on a topic that hits a little closer to home. As some of you know, (or don’t know) I am planning on moving in the Fall. Therefore, I have done a lot of reflecting on my life (which I often do) about what I am leaving behind.

Obviously I will miss my family and my friends but something that I have been working more on lately is rekindling burned bridges with friendships that I thought I was leaving in the past. I know most of you are like, ‘Whyyyyyy?! You don’t have to be friends with everyone and if someone hurt you then why do you feel like being friends with them again?!’ Well, I’m here to tell you three short reasons why.

FIRST OF ALL, I don’t know how old all my readers are but I am 24. I just feel like I am in my MID-TWENTIES (MID!!!) and I don’t need to be dodging people at the bar or in public anymore. Just because someone may have hurt you in the past does not mean we need to be ‘mean mugging’ them when we see them out or whispering about them behind closed doors.

SECOND OF ALL, aren’t you tired of holding resentment?! You don’t have to be best friends with these people but I know that I held a lot of resentment towards a few people for a long time that would just eat away at me. It wasn’t even me mourning a lost friendship – it was just me being ornery and being nasty over something petty that may have happened months (or even years ago).

THIRDLY, I’m sure that not everyone will agree with this statement but I like to be liked by everyone. I understand that isn’t always possible and obviously everyone won’t like you but it just feels better to know that you aren’t doing or saying things to intentionally hurt someone and hopefully your friends or whoever are doing the same courtesy towards you.

So what brought this topic on one might ask? Well, about a month ago I had someone that I used to be close with reach out to me and ask to grab coffee sometime. This wasn’t the first time she had reached out but this was the first time that she mentioned it that I was like, ‘Yeah, that sounds nice to meet and chat with you about everything.’ So, we decided on a date and met up.

IT WAS LIBERATING. We chatted for hours about ow we both felt about the situation at hand and honestly, seeing something through someone else’s eyes really opens your own. Of course, in the moment you may only think ‘Well, they hurt me. Why would I want to meet up with someone that hurt me.’ But after months and months of not being friends with that person anymore and reflecting back to the situation it hits you like rock.

 

All I could think was ‘WHY DID IT TAKE ME SO LONG TO GET OVER PETTY SHIT.’ Why do humans get upset over the smallest things and choose not to see things from other people’s perspectives?! Why are humans so selfish? Does anyone have an answer for this?!

Overall, I’m so blessed and grateful to have rebuilt the friendship with this woman and it feels like no time was lost. We caught up and immediately were back to our schemes. What does everyone else have to say about the topic?

 

Until next time,

xx Christine

2018 Update

Hello & Happy Tuesday!

I can’t believe that March is already here and Winter is SLOWLY coming to an end. Today I just wanted to touch on my life and what has been happening since my last blog update.

I’m back in school and just chugging along (more or less), working out about 3-4 times and week still living with my 4 incredible roommates. Seems pretty boring, right?

Well it’s safe to say I was feeling … a bit stagnant. So after weeks and weeks of feeling upset and not feeling like I was progressing I decided to talk to my advisor about what my future held. Once I talked to him I realized we were NOT on the same page and although I was gearing up to graduate next Spring I still had a semi-long road ahead of me.

That’s when I decided. CHRISTINE, you are not happy taking 18 credits, you are not happy with this or with that, you complain too much, you don’t sleep enough blah blah blah. So I decided to make some serious changes. LET IT BE KNOWN: one of my biggest pet peeves is when people complain but don’t do or change anything about it. And I was NOT about to be one of those people.

I decided to drop a few classes that were stressing me to the max. I decided that those classes weren’t worth my sanity or anxiety and I needed to catch a serious break. I blocked off an extra day at work because I wasn’t feeling rested when I was going back to school on Monday and I almost felt suffocated and couldn’t catch my breath. I also decided one big thing that I needed to do to feel happier – but that is a surprise that I cannot talk about right now.

Since I have tweaked just a few things I’ve already felt happier, less stressed, relieved etc. I feel like I have just that much more time to focus on myself and re-find my happiness.

I don’t ever want anyone to think that big changes are the way to always go when you’re having a ‘quarter life crisis’ (that’s what I’ve been calling it) or that you can’t be happy by making just small changes. For me, though, I’ve realized that all the small changes have been adding up for me to make one big change.

Pictures are sure worth a thousand words but just because someone appears to be happy in pictures does not mean one damn thing. I’ve always had an incredible support group to back me up on every decision – and for that I’m very thankful.

As of right now I just wanted to touch base but there is a lot of things I want to touch more on. Soon to come.

With love,

Christine ❤️