Not All Breakups are Bad

Good morning and happy Sunday! .. Is it even considered truly Sunday if it’s only midnight?

I am spending today working and then catching some coffee with a good friend of mine. Coffee always seems to be the easiest way to catch up since we all live such busy lifestyles.

Today I wanted to touch on something closer to home for me. When I say breakups you thought I was talking about boys, right? LOL, nope! But tricked you to read this far!

When I started prep there were so many supportive people that came out of the woodworks. Even though I was surrounded by so many positive people, I also seemed to be surrounded by negative attitudes as well. It’s hard when you are trying to do something to better yourself and people will always have something bad to say.

Everyone can say that words don’t affect them, and I’m sure there is truth to that, but at the end of the day those words do linger in your head. I am here to tell you that during your 20s there are so many opportunities to grow and if we all thought too hard about what people thought we would still be in the same place that we started. You have to truly weed through the people that don’t care about your physical and emotional health. The people that are constantly asking you to dinner and drinks when you have told them multiple times that you are trying to cut those things out of your life. Of course, everyone loves to be invited but at what point is it peer pressure?

At what point is having people that constantly complain around just draining? I’m not saying cut everyone you’ve ever met out of your life; what I am saying is at the end of the day when you get off of work, what people are you dying to text to see what they’re doing? What people are you texting every couple days because you miss their presence? If you haven’t talked to someone in months, this goes both ways, then how valuable to EACH OTHER are you?

My dad always told me that, ‘you are who your friends are.’ I always took this to heart when deciding on who to be close with because when I would hang around certain people I would see myself adapting to their behaviors. Most of them good behaviors, but some.. not so much.

I know at the end of the day you can feel ‘stuck’ in friendships. Don’t ever feel that way. This is your life and you’re the captain.

 

I’m also not saying, ‘hey you should do s bikini prep to determine who your friends are!’ All I want from anyone to take away from this post is that we all get one life. If you aren’t happy at least 98% of the times, whose fault is that? You pick your own destiny

. I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I just moved into a new house with 4 awesome roommates and 3 cats (whoa). I am ready to take on the new semester and see all my school friends.

I don’t want this post to seem sad or that I am ungrateful for the amazing people in my life. Therefore, I want to say a few words about each of my friends and hope that you have people that make you feel this amazing about yourself.

 

  

 

Kenz – number 1 since day 1. Always been my best friend, always will. One of the strongest people I’ve ever met and we have shown that distance made our friendship grow stronger.

Amanda – my most truthful friend. She will always tell me the honest truth no matter how much it hurts. She is so accountable and always pushes me to be my best self.

Becca – the best mother. Always putting her son first. Always so understanding of life and my feelings. She truly cares about me and is constantly asking how I am and pushing me forward in fitness, school, life, etc.

Risa – the reason I fell in love with fitness. Will forever be grateful to have found this love. She is motivated and driven and I have gained a lot of knowledge by having her as a friend.

Mckenna – the girl I can call to complain about anything and she will reassure my feelings. The girl who was first to support me in my blog, life, anything. The girl that I can sit in silence with and not feel uncomfortable, my scary movie, sleepover and snuggle buddy. Someone I can always count on.

Colton – Everyone needs a Colton. He will drop anything to help me. Even if I don’t talk to Colton for weeks, or if I’m mean because I’m in a bad mood … 😏He is always so kind and asks how I’m doing. Everyone needs a Colton.

Keira – the sweetest person I’ve ever met .. AKA. My number one cheerleader. Every time we chat I come away feeling more positive and happier than when we started the conversation. I know this girl and I can get through anything because of our past and that makes our friendship stronger then most.

Hales – even though we never see each other, when we do.. it’s always so much fun. I know you would do absolutely anything for me and I hope you know the feeling is mutual. Love you, Hales.

Joseph – can’t believe I’m even putting him in here. Probably the smartest person I know and always has my back. Surprisingly missed him all summer and if you know me then you know I mean this all with love.

Little Linny – our friendship has truly blossomed. Someone I am always laughing with. Every time we get together we are constantly laughing and having a good time. She is so supportive and asks how my life is and makes such an effort to be apart of everything I’m doing.

Kayla – my fiery red head. Someone who has always picked me up when I’m down. Someone who always motivates me and makes me feel 100% on the worst of days. I’ve woken up to so many morning texts from her that set my entire day off to a good start. Find a Kayla, people.

Nat – my ‘chillest’ friend. Someone I call often and never get tired of her company. I go to Nat with pretty much everything. We have so many common interests and similar life styles that I’m confused on why it took so long for us to find each other.

Sid – you are the most level headed person I know. You are so down to earth and look on the positive side of things. You NEVER have anything bad to say about anyone and I think so many people can learn from that trait. You stay calm in the craziest of times and are always there to console me

Michelle – my girrrrrll. We have so much trust. For a long time I didn’t feel like I could trust many people and you have proven that you will be there through thick and thin no matter what the circumstances may be.

Last but not least,

 

Alexa – my little sister ❤️ I love you so so much and you support me through everything. I am so happy how close we are and I know you’re a large reason that you and dad are coming to my competition in September. You are always there when I need to talk and so happy to see the woman you’re becoming. You’re beautiful inside and out, sister 👯‍♂️

Hope you guys enjoyed this post make sure to check-in this Wednesday for some workouts and fitness tips!

QUESTIONS :

Have you ever had to ‘break up’ a friendship?

Who is your biggest supporter?